Dear Fellow Writers: It’s Not for Adults, Either


Dear fellow writers,

Let me begin with a story. It’s what I do best, after all.

It is a sunny afternoon. You and I are walking down a country lane next to a brook of water. We have talked about everything from philosophy to chocolate to characterization, and now we are on the subject of the lovely summer weather.

“Such a beautiful day,” I comment.

“Yes,” you answer with a smile. “I just love walking underneath the clear blue skies.”

Without warning I slap your face. Hard. On purpose.

With pain shooting through your cheeks and anger rising in your stomach, you turn and stare at me. “Why on earth would you hit me?” you demand.

“Because it makes this story seem more realistic.” I shrug, grin, then skip off down the lane.

Now, friends, what do you think?

Rather, do you even have to think about it? I just can’t do a thing like that. Hitting you for no reason was gratuitous, hurtful, and just plain cruel. I would never really do a thing like that, and neither would you. Slapping people like that makes me look like a selfish child who doesn’t know anything.

Now, then. If you wouldn’t slap a person across the face for the sake of realism, why on earth would you slap them with a curse word, a mindlessly violent act, or a pornographic scene in a book?

I talked about this some time ago in my article “The Wince Factor” at Kingdom Pen. A Wince Factor is a sudden, unexpected slap that authors put into their stories for various purposes. As I said then, some of these Wince Factors have a legitimate place in the story- like, say, slapping Bruce Wayne for trying to get illegal revenge on a crook. Others, though, have absolutely no place in a story- like having a Tyrannosaurus Rex swear in a children’s movie for no apparent reason, or like putting “adult” scenes in Titanic.

So what’s the difference? Here’s a better question- do you want your future children doing the same things you make your characters do?

Let me say it this way: gratuitously putting so-called “adult content” in books is abusive to the reader and only proves the author to be a lazy amateur.

If I have to use swear words, sex scenes, or sword-killings to make my story seem real and “juicy,” then I am either lazy or an amateur, or perhaps both. Whatever the situation, at some point I must grow up and start putting some educated effort into my occupation. 

Mine is not an unqualified opinion. I’m a published author myself, and I’m learning to make indie films and podcasts. As far as audiences are concerned, I’m eighteen years old and a second-year college student who watches lots of kids’ movies with my siblings. I also read the books that were intended for people well into their thirties or forties. All in all, I’m the intended audience for most television shows and books. Therefore, I am more than qualified to make a statement about all the stuff writers are putting into books and movies.

But is the media really playing to the tastes of the 32% or more of consumers who share my values? I don’t use swear words, and I get uncomfortable every time someone uses a swear word around my younger siblings. I don’t like watching excessively violent character deaths. I have a zero-tolerance policy for gratuitous sexual content in media.

Now I know some of you are about to go to the comments section and start flaming me for being a Christian bigot. I don’t blame you; Western culture in general has the uncivilized notion that to be an adult is to drink alcohol, watch pornographic movies, and use swear words, and their only defense against opposing viewpoints is to slap them with a label and call it a draw.

But it seems that a person who cannot discern the best action in these cases is simply an oversized version of the child who throws a tantrum at the grocery store when his mother doesn’t buy him all the candy in the store, and who sticks out his tongue when told that he is misbehaving. Who is the bigot- the mother, or the child? Writers ought to know that there is a distinction: growing older is getting the ability to purchase all the candy, but being an adult is discerning whether it’s good for your waistline and your wallet. Likewise, being an adult writer is choosing to have a positive impact on the worldview and behavior of your audience.

Think of it this way- if the good guys like something, the readers love it. If the bad guys are motivated by something, the readers loathe it. The author’s opinion becomes the reader’s. Whether or not mass murderers are inspired by films, you can see evidence of a storyteller’s power even in the grocery store: Elsa and Anna on party napkins, or Captain America’s shield on a cereal box. Think about that- Marvel influences your choice of breakfast foods. We writers have great power, and with great power comes great responsibility.

Media rules the world, so don’t be a tyrant.

Here’s a big news flash- you don’t have to describe every detail in order for readers to know that a thing happened. Andrew Klavan, author of If We Survive, knew that it was crucial for one of his protagonists to use a swear word as part of her character arc, but he was still writing for Christian teenagers who don’t appreciate those sorts of things. So what did the ingenious Klavan do? He made the swearing scene happen off-screen. The character’s arc was completely developed and the story still packed quite as much of a punch, but Klavan didn’t have to verbally abuse his readers to achieve that effect.

Again, in the 1950s, if someone was beheaded in The Inn of the Sixth Happiness or if the Duke of Gloucester had a you-know-what scene with Lady Anne, Mark Robson and Laurence Olivier just made those things happen off-screen. And no one ever criticized Olivier for being a bad storyteller. So are our stories in the 2010s more developed, or just more debauched?

No more excuses. At this point, we all have two options. One, we can take out the bad stuff and write purpose-filled books, proving that we know right from wrong and care about helping people to understand the world we live in. Or two, we can leave the bad stuff in and prove that we don’t really care about anything but the money.

It’s your choice.

Hannah A. Krynicki

Am I right or wrong? What do you think about gratuitous content in media? 

8 thoughts on “Dear Fellow Writers: It’s Not for Adults, Either

  1. Oh my goodness!!! How can I thank you enough for totally calling this out and laying bare and straight? You totally nailed that down. It’s such a sad truth in today’s culture. (one of the many reasons I read old literature) We need more authors who can write a wonderful story without all the gratuitous junk!


    • You got that right about old books- although writers like D.H. Lawrence sometimes pushed those boundaries for no sensible reason. Thankfully, it seems that you are on the right path for offering replacements for all that junk. 🙂


      • It would be cool to post a list of old books that are still written well enough to capture the short attention span of today’s audience. Obviously there is a certain amount of taste and desire that comes into play when reading a book such as Pride and Prejudice, Shakespeare, G. A. Henty, and the like. But I honestly think that if we got more people to read books such as that it would begin to show in their own writing and thinking. I know it surely has in mine. (Or so I hope.)
        “And she must expand her mind by extensive reading.”
        ~Mr. Darcy – Pride and Prejudice


        • That is a good idea! I and my sister have tried to compile a list on our book blog, but I’d like to see a list of your favorites, too.


  2. Well said. Even though there are days when I just check my brain at the door to enjoy a crazy romp (ie: Deadpool) those are times when I’m prepared for it because I know it’s coming. Unfortunately most days it’s as you say. A slap in the face with something gratuitous, placed there specifically for ratings, or a certain demographic. Too often it is to the detriment of the story that they do this.


    • That is true, too; a lot of movies have gratuitous content just to achieve that PG-13 rating. And like you said, it’s okay to ignore those things sometimes, but it is different to put that in my own writing.

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  3. Amen, amen, and amen!!! Thanks for writing this post. It’s just plain lazy for people to add cuss words and other inappropriate material for the “shock effect.” Instead of spending time coming up with a good story, some authors spend time wondering what the next cuss word they put in should be. I have a book about writing called “How to Write a D*** Good Novel” (my grandma couldn’t reading the cuss word on the cover, so she bought it for me ), and while the author does have some good writing tips, one piece of advice this author gives to other young authors is that characters should be more passionate and emotional than real humans. This advice isn’t necessarily bad–until he says that this includes the characters having more sex. It’s ridiculous that authors think they have to add inappropriate material to sell their books. That’s flat out not true. While some readers DO enjoy reading those trashy books (I have no clue why), a LOT of readers DON’T! Plus, we pretend that this content is okay for adults to read, but it shouldn’t be okay for ANYONE to read.
    Rant over.


    • Wow, nicely expressed. I love reading a good rant now and then. That author took his ideas a little (or a lot) too far… no one should have to read that sort of trash. Quality, not meaningless wince factors, sells books.

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